I was on The Circle this morning and even though my 6 minutes turned into 8 minutes, I still didn’t get to answer all the questions in detail… So Yumi, this is for you since I know you were more curious about the lifestyle itself and I didn’t get to really spend time answering your question. CLICK HERE to go to The Essential Guide for Adventurous Couples. NOTE: Raunchify is NOT a swingers event, it is an event for women who have lost their mojo… I’m speaking about “Going from Rut to Raunchy; Get out of Your Head and Back into Bed!” Please leave comments and questions below, and if it’s a great question, I’ll do another YouTube video just for...

It’s the 21st century and the era of social media, which is great for connecting and sharing but can also be a recipe for disaster if you’re unaware or aren’t prepared. And if you are a person who is also a swinger that loves to share, then it’s “danger Will Robinson!” (Ok, showing my age now I think). The following are just suggestions, take what you think will work for you and weigh up the risks of doing the opposite – no, seriously, think first on this one because once it’s out in the cyber world, you can’t take it back! (I know, I tried!) These are not the only strategies or ideas, but they work. My number one strategy; create a separate “fun” account for your “alter ego”. While Facebook allows you to put people into lists and you have the capability to...

I read a forum question about this recently and it was talking about the various ways people define what a threesome is in terms of who does what, where the pleasure is focused and the configurations both men and women prefer, and why. So I thought it might be worth sharing what I learned, what I think and allow you to explore the definition for yourself. So the typical configurations when it comes to the average couple is MFM or FMF, and typically men love the idea of FMF’s more than MFM’s. I say “typically” but know there are plenty of men out there who are not your typical men (hats off to you guys). You can have MMM’s and FFF’s too, they just aren’t as talked about. The types are still relevant to these but I just won’t be focused on them Now there are at least three...

This is a common partnering, myself included. Guess which one I am… I’m the shy one of course! Well, ok, maybe not but it doesn’t mean the social butterflies don’t have issues because of their social abilities. The biggest issues, which come up with this pairing, are in social situations like swinging parties or events where there are multiple couples and singles in the mix. The social butterfly quickly gets into conversations, flirts and can often easily find new playmates to keep themselves entertained. The shy partner, on the other hand, finds it difficult to approach people and start conversations that lead to flirting and on to naked playfulness. In a group situation it can be the shy partners who are left on the outer a little if the social butterfly is lost in their world...

One question I get asked repeatedly is “how do we know if we’re ready?” Unfortunately it’s not as easy as going for it when you see a pop up like the indicator for a nicely cooked turkey, or a alarm that goes off saying “it’s time” so you know it’s time to strip off naked and join in the fun. Also important to note is sometimes “mostly ready” is ready enough; if I waited to do things until I was 100% certain, then there is long list I would never have attempted and a lot I would have missed out on. Mr Wonderful wasn’t 100% about swinging, but when we got into it he became ready, and it is now a part of our regular (if you can call it that) lives. So while it’s not a cut and dry “yes we’re ready”, there are signs that let you know you can at least start...