Sexy has almost become extinct for the average working woman. She has become very masculine in her efforts to keep up with self-imposed demand. I’ve been curious about this point for some time and have done much research. What we now know is the importance energy has to play in our daily lives, masculine and feminine energy in particular and how the balance between the two is critical for sustainability and longevity in a relationship – especially the one we have with ourselves. There is also a lot to be said about the consequences of feminism (yes there are consequences) and how we may have swung the pendulum too far in the opposite direction without considering what it would mean to us 30, 40, 50 years in the future. I am not going to bring on a political debate about feminism...

Whether this is a new development in you, or it’s been there for some time there are a couple of choices… You could: 1. Cheat – enjoy your bisexual playtime without telling them, after all what they don’t know won’t hurt them, right? 2. Not tell them, which means you never fulfill those urges or explore that part of your sexuality and go quietly insane. 3. Tell them and potentially end up going your separate ways or evolving your relationship together. They are your 3 main options and there is a high level of pain and uncertainty associated with every one of them. I’ll be totally honest, this secret does have the potential to make or break a relationship regardless of the choice you make so there’s really no easy option, and only one that keeps your integrity in tact… What...

Ok, so straight, bi and gay are well known and mostly accepted (depending on who you talk to)… but what about transgender and transsexuals? I had a brilliant conversation with 2 awesome gay guys the other night and it occured to me that there is a whole other level of sexuality I hadn’t even considered!!! One of them was telling us about a friend of his who was a man but at some point became a woman… now just to help us all keep on track with this conversation, we’ll name him Tim and when he’s a woman – Tina! Are we all on the same page so far? So Tim has taken hormones to start to look like Tina. Ok, I can cope with that… now the question of sexuality came up, who is he attracted to? He’s into men, so does that make him gay or straight? Did...

Ooo, should swingers tell their children? And if so, when should they tell them? What impact could it have on them? And is there an advantage to having swinging parents? I say there is but you’re going to have to read more to find out why… You know what? Parenting isn’t an exact science; the manual was never delivered with the baby (or is it on back order?) who knows, but we do the best we can with the resources we have available, and to guide us along the way, we have a little bit of parental intuition. So at what age do we have “the” talk? And how much detail do you go into when you’re not only a swinger, but bi-sexual? I think I sat down with my Mum when I was about 8 and got the “vanilla” low down. I told my daughter at about the same age although we weren’t swinging...

For men anyway! It’s not necessarily the case but for a lot of bi-curious men it seems that they have no issue with sucking another mans penis but kiss his lips and no, can’t go there! It’s almost like the old Pretty Woman scenario, everything else is just sex, but kissing is intimate and suggests love and affection which most men don’t have for another man, they just like what they can do to them. So imagine my surprise when Mr Wonderful (aka Hubby) wants to try it! Now does that mean he’s turning gay? Let me tell you the answer to that one – NO! He’s just willing to explore his sexuality and see what he likes and what he doesn’t. Exploring your sexuality can be a bit daunting, just like when you first started having sex. It’s...