Buying sex toys for the first timer or inexperienced is a pretty daunting task, especially if you don’t have anyone offering advice on what to try out first. It’s not like you can casually ring your mom or your sister and say, “Hey, I want to spice up my sex life with a vibrator, got any advice?” If we stick with vibrators, there are plenty of decisions and choices that need to be made when choosing your first one, but put simply you need to consider the following: Size is perhaps the first thing you need to think about because using a dildo is pretty invasive (in a nice way of course!) so you don’t really want to be starting with a huge dildo if you’ve never used one before. You probably ought to go for something small and discreet to start with because that way you will...

I was on The Circle this morning and even though my 6 minutes turned into 8 minutes, I still didn’t get to answer all the questions in detail… So Yumi, this is for you since I know you were more curious about the lifestyle itself and I didn’t get to really spend time answering your question. CLICK HERE to go to The Essential Guide for Adventurous Couples. NOTE: Raunchify is NOT a swingers event, it is an event for women who have lost their mojo… I’m speaking about “Going from Rut to Raunchy; Get out of Your Head and Back into Bed!” Please leave comments and questions below, and if it’s a great question, I’ll do another YouTube video just for...

Well being a swinger you get the opportunity to do some field research (so to speak) and it amazes me how many guys either worry about, or boast about, their penis size, but does size really matter? I’m happy to answer that but do you want the truth; the whole truth, and nothing but the truth? Ok, you asked for it. Guys often ask me 2 things: 1. Can we feel the difference between a “big” one and a “small” one? You want the truth right? Well, yes, we can feel the difference. 2. Can we feel more with a bigger one? Yes we can. But you guys are so hung up on size you fail to ask the most important question; can we still get pleasure from a smaller one? Yes we can! So does size really matter? Not as much as you guys think it does! The male assumption is that all women want men...

Sexy has almost become extinct for the average working woman. She has become very masculine in her efforts to keep up with self-imposed demand. I’ve been curious about this point for some time and have done much research. What we now know is the importance energy has to play in our daily lives, masculine and feminine energy in particular and how the balance between the two is critical for sustainability and longevity in a relationship – especially the one we have with ourselves. There is also a lot to be said about the consequences of feminism (yes there are consequences) and how we may have swung the pendulum too far in the opposite direction without considering what it would mean to us 30, 40, 50 years in the future. I am not going to bring on a political debate about feminism...

It’s the 21st century and the era of social media, which is great for connecting and sharing but can also be a recipe for disaster if you’re unaware or aren’t prepared. And if you are a person who is also a swinger that loves to share, then it’s “danger Will Robinson!” (Ok, showing my age now I think). The following are just suggestions, take what you think will work for you and weigh up the risks of doing the opposite – no, seriously, think first on this one because once it’s out in the cyber world, you can’t take it back! (I know, I tried!) These are not the only strategies or ideas, but they work. My number one strategy; create a separate “fun” account for your “alter ego”. While Facebook allows you to put people into lists and you have the capability to...